Father and Son, Mother and Daughter, Mother and Son, Father and Daughter

Father and Son, Mother and Daughter, Mother and Son, Father and Daughter.  They are all parent and child relationships but they  couldn't be any more different.  Each one being different  in terms of bonding and protection. 

The father and son relationship, from what I have experienced, is the defining factor in the son's transition from a boy into a man. The father should teach and guide the son with the use of experience and the use of space because if the father attempts to control instead of guide the son, this relationship can be the most antagonistic and violent of all. This relationship should result in a closer connection between father and son because of the bonding between the two for educational and recreational purposes. The father should protect the son so the son can learn and one day protect himself.  My father attempts to do with his difficult childhood experience and wisdom to direct me from his mistakes and encourage my success. 

 The relationship I share with my mother is far from this. As my father teaches me to be a man, my mother tries to teach me to be a better man. She compliments his success orientated lessons in manhood, pride, and happiness with how I can achieve them.  My mother is almost like my failure's greatest enemy. She will teach me to learn from them and how to avoid them. 

I hope to develop the same beneficial and necessary relationships with my own children. I only want them to succeed at what makes them happy.